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		<title>By: Barry</title>
		<link>http://crookedtimber.org/2009/01/08/presume-not-on-thy-heart-when-mines-coerced-thou-gavst-me-thine-but-then-we-got-divorced/comment-page-1/#comment-263108</link>
		<dc:creator>Barry</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:10:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Yes; if I poured a cup of coffee fresh from the pot and handed it to you, you&#039;d handle it with care.  If I first put it into the microwave for a minute, and handed it to you then, you&#039;d probably put it on the counter first, to cool it.  Because you&#039;d know d*mn well that one slip and the God of Pain would be spending quality time with you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Yes; if I poured a cup of coffee fresh from the pot and handed it to you, you&#8217;d handle it with care.  If I first put it into the microwave for a minute, and handed it to you then, you&#8217;d probably put it on the counter first, to cool it.  Because you&#8217;d know d*mn well that one slip and the God of Pain would be spending quality time with you.</p>
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		<title>By: salient</title>
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		<dc:creator>salient</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Jan 2009 23:42:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;The point was that McDonald’s deliberately served their coffee at a temperature where a spill would very likely result in serious injury, despite a large number of reports of such injuries. It’s odd, because I was able to discern that.&lt;/i&gt;

True. And they&#039;ve changed practices, we should observe. Does anyone else remember those days when McDonald&#039;s coffee was so hot you couldn&#039;t drink it for a good fifteen minutes, leaving it cap-open to cool? Maybe it was different by location, but whew, I remember that. My mother and I used to go for coffee (it was the only cheap-coffee-serving location within walking distance), and we&#039;d have to leave the caps off for half our time there. I&#039;d put ice in it. I also remember remarking to someone, upon news of the lawsuit, &quot;hey, maybe they&#039;ll stop serving their coffee at a temperature hot enough to melt aluminum.&quot; They just nodded: it seemed like a perfectly sensible statement.

I&#039;ve spilled coffee on my lap, fresh from the pot at home, without serious injury to anything but my khakis and ego. I&#039;ve spilled coffee on my hand at Starbucks, and just wiped it off with a napkin, no severe harm done, just mild discomfort. McDonald&#039;s coffee at the McDonald&#039;s closest to my house (in high school) was unusually, ungodly hot, and I doubt that location was unique in this respect.

I suspect the degree of sarcastic vitriol that gets thrown around when the lawsuit comes up is actually due to our very loose working definition of &quot;hot&quot; (and I suspect the vitriol comes mostly from people who don&#039;t drink coffee). Coffee is served hot. But molten lead is also hot. Coffee can be served reasonably or unreasonably hot, and in the latter case, frankly it&#039;s only ethical to offer your customers some fair warning!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p><i>The point was that McDonald&#8217;s deliberately served their coffee at a temperature where a spill would very likely result in serious injury, despite a large number of reports of such injuries. It&#8217;s odd, because I was able to discern that.</i></p>

	<p>True. And they&#8217;ve changed practices, we should observe. Does anyone else remember those days when McDonald&#8217;s coffee was so hot you couldn&#8217;t drink it for a good fifteen minutes, leaving it cap-open to cool? Maybe it was different by location, but whew, I remember that. My mother and I used to go for coffee (it was the only cheap-coffee-serving location within walking distance), and we&#8217;d have to leave the caps off for half our time there. I&#8217;d put ice in it. I also remember remarking to someone, upon news of the lawsuit, &#8220;hey, maybe they&#8217;ll stop serving their coffee at a temperature hot enough to melt aluminum.&#8221; They just nodded: it seemed like a perfectly sensible statement.</p>

	<p>I&#8217;ve spilled coffee on my lap, fresh from the pot at home, without serious injury to anything but my khakis and ego. I&#8217;ve spilled coffee on my hand at Starbucks, and just wiped it off with a napkin, no severe harm done, just mild discomfort. McDonald&#8217;s coffee at the McDonald&#8217;s closest to my house (in high school) was unusually, ungodly hot, and I doubt that location was unique in this respect.</p>

	<p>I suspect the degree of sarcastic vitriol that gets thrown around when the lawsuit comes up is actually due to our very loose working definition of &#8220;hot&#8221; (and I suspect the vitriol comes mostly from people who don&#8217;t drink coffee). Coffee is served hot. But molten lead is also hot. Coffee can be served reasonably or unreasonably hot, and in the latter case, frankly it&#8217;s only ethical to offer your customers some fair warning!</p>
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		<title>By: kid bitzer</title>
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		<dc:creator>kid bitzer</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Jan 2009 14:20:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>barry freed--

oddly enough, worries about gender confusion had not reared their heads in my mind.

i have a pretty impeccable record of distinguishing penises from kidneys, so even when i tried to put myself in the lover&#039;s...shoes, that problem did not suggest itself.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>barry freed&#8212;<br />
oddly enough, worries about gender confusion had not reared their heads in my mind.</p>

	<p>i have a pretty impeccable record of distinguishing penises from kidneys, so even when i tried to put myself in the lover&#8217;s&#8230;shoes, that problem did not suggest itself.</p>
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		<title>By: Barry</title>
		<link>http://crookedtimber.org/2009/01/08/presume-not-on-thy-heart-when-mines-coerced-thou-gavst-me-thine-but-then-we-got-divorced/comment-page-1/#comment-263028</link>
		<dc:creator>Barry</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Jan 2009 12:26:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Gee, you think?  The point was that McDonald&#039;s deliberately served their coffee at a temperature where a spill would very likely result in serious injury, despite a large number of reports of such injuries.  It&#039;s odd, because I was able to discern that.  Also, not in the article, but something that I heard was that the attorney for McDonald&#039;s described the hundreds of burns as &#039;statistically insiginificant&#039;.  Not a good thing to say in front of a jury.

In the end, that case is an excellent example of right-wingers being able to spin things.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Gee, you think?  The point was that McDonald&#8217;s deliberately served their coffee at a temperature where a spill would very likely result in serious injury, despite a large number of reports of such injuries.  It&#8217;s odd, because I was able to discern that.  Also, not in the article, but something that I heard was that the attorney for McDonald&#8217;s described the hundreds of burns as &#8216;statistically insiginificant&#8217;.  Not a good thing to say in front of a jury.</p>

	<p>In the end, that case is an excellent example of right-wingers being able to spin things.</p>
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		<title>By: Mr T.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mr T.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:32:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Barry 01.08.09 at 2:15 pm and
rea 01.08.09 at 12:36 pm

Thanks for the links with extra information. With the full facts let me adjust my comment on the american legal system with regards to the McDonalds coffee case.

Why a judge decided that the plaintiff was only 20% at fault astounds me.  Any moron knows that coffee is hot, and in a car, is likely to spill

Sorry for going off topic</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Barry 01.08.09 at 2:15 pm and<br />
rea 01.08.09 at 12:36 pm</p>

	<p>Thanks for the links with extra information. With the full facts let me adjust my comment on the american legal system with regards to the McDonalds coffee case.</p>

	<p>Why a judge decided that the plaintiff was only 20% at fault astounds me.  Any moron knows that coffee is hot, and in a car, is likely to spill</p>

	<p>Sorry for going off topic</p>
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		<title>By: Barry Freed</title>
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		<dc:creator>Barry Freed</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Jan 2009 00:22:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;b&gt;do you see why i sympathized with the lover? even closer proximity than id thought!
is that your husband there in your pelvis? oh; only part of him?
the whole thing is unsettling.&lt;/b&gt;

Additonally, think of the possibilty of gender confusion issues arising.  I mean it&#039;s almost as if she has her ex-husband&#039;s penis too.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p><b>do you see why i sympathized with the lover? even closer proximity than id thought!<br />
is that your husband there in your pelvis? oh; only part of him?<br />
the whole thing is unsettling.</b></p>

	<p>Additonally, think of the possibilty of gender confusion issues arising.  I mean it&#8217;s almost as if she has her ex-husband&#8217;s penis too.</p>
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		<title>By: Righteous Bubba</title>
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		<dc:creator>Righteous Bubba</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:53:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>In a further misuse of Occam&#039;s Razor, he&#039;s got kind of a dicky moustache.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>In a further misuse of Occam&#8217;s Razor, he&#8217;s got kind of a dicky moustache.</p>
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		<title>By: lemmy caution</title>
		<link>http://crookedtimber.org/2009/01/08/presume-not-on-thy-heart-when-mines-coerced-thou-gavst-me-thine-but-then-we-got-divorced/comment-page-1/#comment-262970</link>
		<dc:creator>lemmy caution</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:46:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>His attorney dominic barbara used to be on the howard stern show all the time.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>His attorney dominic barbara used to be on the howard stern show all the time.</p>
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		<title>By: Watson Aname</title>
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		<dc:creator>Watson Aname</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:40:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>To the contrary, libarbarian, we  know he&#039;s at least this one time carrying through dickheadish bad judgement, there being no other way to describe this stunt.  And we know very little about her at all, or the other parameters of their relationship.

Everything else (in your post and others more taking her side) are nearly pure supposition, considering the available sources.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>To the contrary, libarbarian, we  know he&#8217;s at least this one time carrying through dickheadish bad judgement, there being no other way to describe this stunt.  And we know very little about her at all, or the other parameters of their relationship.</p>

	<p>Everything else (in your post and others more taking her side) are nearly pure supposition, considering the available sources.</p>
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		<title>By: lemuel pitkin</title>
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		<dc:creator>lemuel pitkin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:40:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I gather certain partners have defaulted.
Allegedly the organs acting for them
Vanished when they decided to withdraw them.
Loopholes were found: something that must be halted.

Recourse to law would seem the only way 
To get those organs duly confiscated.
Perhaps each partner then can be persuaded

To check again on what the contracts say.
If they won&#039;t do so, someone&#039;s sure to send
The bailiffs in -- a most unhappy end.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>I gather certain partners have defaulted.<br />
Allegedly the organs acting for them<br />
Vanished when they decided to withdraw them.<br />
Loopholes were found: something that must be halted.</p>

	<p>Recourse to law would seem the only way<br />
To get those organs duly confiscated.<br />
Perhaps each partner then can be persuaded</p>

	<p>To check again on what the contracts say.<br />
If they won&#8217;t do so, someone&#8217;s sure to send<br />
The bailiffs in&#8212;a most unhappy end.</p>
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		<title>By: libarbarian</title>
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		<dc:creator>libarbarian</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:27:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;I really doubt he expects to get $1.5 million. Perhaps this was his way of reminding the judge that she’s already gotten something extremely valuable from him, and it ought to be taken into account when she’s trying to separate him from everything else of value he might chance to have.&lt;/i&gt;

&lt;i&gt;&quot;Batista said his aim instead was to draw attention to her not allowing him agreed-upon visitation with the couple&#039;s three children, ages 14, 11 and 8.&quot;&lt;/i&gt;- http://www.newsday.com/news/local/ny-likidn0108,0,512593.story

Its odd that, in a dispute between a man who gave his wife a kidney despite their problems, and a woman who cheated on him, initiated the divorce, and then used her own children as pawns to hurt him, that &lt;i&gt;He&lt;/i&gt; is the one presumed to be a dick.  

He might well be one, and we have limited evidence, but give the evidence we do have Occams Razor clearly points to HER as the person most likely to be a total and complete piece of crap.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p><i>I really doubt he expects to get $1.5 million. Perhaps this was his way of reminding the judge that she&#8217;s already gotten something extremely valuable from him, and it ought to be taken into account when she&#8217;s trying to separate him from everything else of value he might chance to have.</i></p>

	<p><i>&#8220;Batista said his aim instead was to draw attention to her not allowing him agreed-upon visitation with the couple&#8217;s three children, ages 14, 11 and 8.&#8221;</i>- <a href="http://www.newsday.com/news/local/ny-likidn0108,0,512593.story" rel="nofollow">http://www.newsday.com/news/local/ny-likidn0108,0,512593.story</a></p>

	<p>Its odd that, in a dispute between a man who gave his wife a kidney despite their problems, and a woman who cheated on him, initiated the divorce, and then used her own children as pawns to hurt him, that <i>He</i> is the one presumed to be a dick.</p>

	<p>He might well be one, and we have limited evidence, but give the evidence we do have Occams Razor clearly points to <span class="caps">HER</span> as the person most likely to be a total and complete piece of crap.</p>
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		<title>By: Righteous Bubba</title>
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		<dc:creator>Righteous Bubba</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:18:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;There’s at least a prima facie case the guys been done a serious criminal harm. &lt;/i&gt;

Where&#039;s the criminal harm?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p><i>There&#8217;s at least a prima facie case the guys been done a serious criminal harm. </i></p>

	<p>Where&#8217;s the criminal harm?</p>
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		<title>By: leederick</title>
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		<dc:creator>leederick</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:12:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;&quot;The guy is revealing a lot about himself. Maybe he should sue her for the value of all the little daily kindnesses he did for her. If any.&quot;&lt;/i&gt;

I think this thread is very revealing about the liberal consensus on marital infidelity.

If you do something for someone and you did it because they lied to you, and they gain economic advantage from it or you suffer an economic loss, then that&#039;s a very serious crime - it&#039;s called fraud. We&#039;re in exactly the same situation with regard to this as we were with domestic violence 50 years ago. On paper assault was criminal - and no-one would dispute this were it done to a stranger - but in practice beating your spouse was de facto legal, and no-one really though it was particularly a big deal except the victim.

There&#039;s at least a prima facie case the guys been done a serious criminal harm. Of course he should be allowed to sue, and I see no reason the police shouldn&#039;t get involved with the situation. I can&#039;t fathom the crazy sentiments we get from the children of the 60s on this issue. The fact she was his wife does not excuse her causing him harm through decieving him, and he deserves the protection of the law.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p><i>&#8220;The guy is revealing a lot about himself. Maybe he should sue her for the value of all the little daily kindnesses he did for her. If any.&#8221;</i></p>

	<p>I think this thread is very revealing about the liberal consensus on marital infidelity.</p>

	<p>If you do something for someone and you did it because they lied to you, and they gain economic advantage from it or you suffer an economic loss, then that&#8217;s a very serious crime &#8211; it&#8217;s called fraud. We&#8217;re in exactly the same situation with regard to this as we were with domestic violence 50 years ago. On paper assault was criminal &#8211; and no-one would dispute this were it done to a stranger &#8211; but in practice beating your spouse was de facto legal, and no-one really though it was particularly a big deal except the victim.</p>

	<p>There&#8217;s at least a prima facie case the guys been done a serious criminal harm. Of course he should be allowed to sue, and I see no reason the police shouldn&#8217;t get involved with the situation. I can&#8217;t fathom the crazy sentiments we get from the children of the 60s on this issue. The fact she was his wife does not excuse her causing him harm through decieving him, and he deserves the protection of the law.</p>
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		<title>By: LizardBreath</title>
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		<dc:creator>LizardBreath</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:11:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;I make a point of never performing surgery from inside someones’s pelvis . . .&lt;/i&gt;

Yeah, if you&#039;re even partially inside someone&#039;s pelvis, it&#039;s probably more of a social occasion.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p><i>I make a point of never performing surgery from inside someones&#8217;s pelvis . . .</i></p>

	<p>Yeah, if you&#8217;re even partially inside someone&#8217;s pelvis, it&#8217;s probably more of a social occasion.</p>
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		<title>By: kid bitzer</title>
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		<dc:creator>kid bitzer</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:09:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>do you see why i sympathized with the lover?  even closer proximity than i&#039;d thought!

&quot;is that your husband there in your pelvis? oh; only part of him?&quot;

the whole thing is unsettling.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>do you see why i sympathized with the lover?  even closer proximity than i&#8217;d thought!</p>

	<p>&#8220;is that your husband there in your pelvis? oh; only part of him?&#8221;</p>

	<p>the whole thing is unsettling.</p>
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